Please comment if you have the answer to any of these questions. They are keeping me awake at night...
If circumcision is no big deal how come every time I forget to sleep with my foreskin restoration device attached I am anxious and irritable for a good part of the next day?
If circumcision is performed in the child's health interests how come every time I spend significant amount of time reading circumcision related blogs I come across someone who, as a result of his very "tight" circumcision experiences horrific pain every time he gets erect, much less tries to reach ejaculation.
If circumcision is such an important part of the Jewish and Islamic religion could someone please explain to me why it's so important to God that everyone has an exposed, callous glans? I'm also wondering how he sits through watching all those circumcisions performed in his name. I mean he is omnipresent after all so that means he gets to see and hear every one of those screaming babies AND since he is also omniscient that means he knows exactly how much pain and sadness and betrayal each of those tiny little babies feels. Say what you will about us atheists. It certainly requires less ethical gymnastics.
How come I never see any studies done by intact doctors from Europe "proving" how great circumcision is? Is it within the realm of possibility that the foreskin-less docs in the US and Israel are hell-bent on proving the evils of the foreskin just so they personally can feel better about not having one?
If foreskins are as bad as US doctors make them out to be how on Earth did the human race survive before some self-mutilating weirdo first decided to experiment with the idea of hacking off part of his own penis? (wonder what that guys parents did to HIM huh?)
Can anybody tell me where my foreskin is? Really. I'd like it back. I mean, it is mine after all. Isn't there some kind of inalienable right to body parts? I mean, it's not like it was some cancer-ridden lesion. It was a perfectly good foreskin. Wait, why are you giving me this skin cream. I don't want this, I just want... Oh. Yuck.
If circumcision is such a great idea how come no one is circumcising their dogs? I mean if you're willing to drop $250 at Petco on the latest food and toys for him, why not prevent penile cancer while you're at it?
Who really signs up for cutting penises? I mean seriously. It's kind of like being the defense attorney for a serial child rapist. Yes, someone has to do it but why would you want to be that person? Even for the people who have convinced themselves it is ethically ok to mutilate baby penises you would think they would be a little put off by the screaming and crying and seizuring and bleeding. You would think that would put them off enough to consider a career change.
And the number one burning question I have:
If circumcision is no big deal, how come even though my foreskin is only like maybe 15-20% restored my sex life is DRAMATICALLY enhanced. I mean it was great before but HOLY SHIT.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Circumcision Song
There is nothing funny about circumcision but sometimes you gotta laugh to keep from cryin'. Know what I mean? With that in mind check out the following song lyrics and if you like them check out the performance at
Circumcision Song
Circumcision Song
By Jeff Sanger
March 2008
Use chords G…. em…….. am…….. D…..
Repeat throughout
(chorus)
Circumcision is bad
For little babies
And their
Families
Because you need the tip of your penis
For sex
And other fun
Activities
Don’t you listen
To your pediatrician
He stands to make a lot of
Money you see
Oh whoa oh circumcision
Was imported to the US
Sometime around
1883
Doctors of the time
Were trying to figure out
How to stop masturbation, ‘cause it causes
Blindness no doubt
They cut off the erogenous zone
So he’d leave it alone
They said he felt he felt no pain
Though he cried and moaned
(Chorus)
Circumcision is bad
For little babies
And their
Families
Because you need the tip of your penis
For sex
And other fun
Activities
Now some people
Are trying so say
It prevents UTIs
And maybe AIDS
Well I really think
they’re full of shit
Besides what’s medical opinion
got to do with it?
It’s my boy’s penis
so let him decide
If he’s that worried ‘bout some
Damn UTI.
One more brief point
You just can’t deride
How come everyone I know with AIDS is
Circumcised?!?!?!?
You want him to look like Dad?
Come on now please!
What if junior’s daddy was a
Double amputee?
Someday soon
The US will get a clue
Followed closely by that
Rotten AAP too
And then all those rotten
Docs will turn and say
Well, we never advocated circumcision
Anyway!
Oh whoa tell your friends
Tell your mom and dad
Tell everyone you know circumcision is……
BAD!!!!!!!!
Circumcision Song
Circumcision Song
By Jeff Sanger
March 2008
Use chords G…. em…….. am…….. D…..
Repeat throughout
(chorus)
Circumcision is bad
For little babies
And their
Families
Because you need the tip of your penis
For sex
And other fun
Activities
Don’t you listen
To your pediatrician
He stands to make a lot of
Money you see
Oh whoa oh circumcision
Was imported to the US
Sometime around
1883
Doctors of the time
Were trying to figure out
How to stop masturbation, ‘cause it causes
Blindness no doubt
They cut off the erogenous zone
So he’d leave it alone
They said he felt he felt no pain
Though he cried and moaned
(Chorus)
Circumcision is bad
For little babies
And their
Families
Because you need the tip of your penis
For sex
And other fun
Activities
Now some people
Are trying so say
It prevents UTIs
And maybe AIDS
Well I really think
they’re full of shit
Besides what’s medical opinion
got to do with it?
It’s my boy’s penis
so let him decide
If he’s that worried ‘bout some
Damn UTI.
One more brief point
You just can’t deride
How come everyone I know with AIDS is
Circumcised?!?!?!?
You want him to look like Dad?
Come on now please!
What if junior’s daddy was a
Double amputee?
Someday soon
The US will get a clue
Followed closely by that
Rotten AAP too
And then all those rotten
Docs will turn and say
Well, we never advocated circumcision
Anyway!
Oh whoa tell your friends
Tell your mom and dad
Tell everyone you know circumcision is……
BAD!!!!!!!!
Friday, June 24, 2011
Everyone wants to circumcise the world
"Circumcision helps prevent cervical cancer."
Really? This is like telling your friend Jim Bob who lost both hands in a farm accident that at least he'll never have to deal with hangnails again. Or telling your friend, Hank, who lost both feet in a steamroller accident that at least he doesn't have those pesky corns you do.
Statements like this are not even offered as a "reason" to circumcise/cut/mutilate your child. They are instead a pitiful consolation prize for those who have already done so.
E.g.: "Sure I cut Johnny so he'd look like me but hey, I'm also helping lower the cervical cancer rate."
Let's look at it another way: If you could "help prevent" breast cancer by cutting off your child's left ear would you do it? What about helping prevent colon cancer -- big killer by the way-- would you cut off your son's pinkie finger to do that? OF COURSE YOU WOULDN'T! So why should you cut off his foreskin to "help prevent" cervical cancer? See what a bad idea it is? You don't cut off body parts to prevent problems that don't exist. (If we did, doctors would remove the appendix shortly after birth too. After all they don't think it has much of a function and appendicitis can be life threatening.) The truth is people have been circumcising their children for thousands of years for ALL kinds of bizarre reasons. It's only in the last hundred or so years that the American medical profession has decided to try to legitimize it.
If you are circumcised and you somehow find solace in the claim that you are "helping" prevent cervical cancer, more power to you, but please don't tout this as a reason to circumcise. Do you really want to advocate circumcising/mutilating non-consenting children to deal with a public health problem (ie HPV) that is best addressed with condoms and monogamy? Speaking as a partially restored man, it is really quite ludicrous. (For me personally I'd rather have my foreskin and NOT help prevent cervical cancer. After all I'm in a monogamous relationship and thus not at risk of giving HPV to anyone. Sorry, but I've chosen to think highly of my son as well and don't think he will rampantly spread HPV just because he is intact!)
So if you are circumcised and/or have chosen to circumcise your child, STOP throwing out red herrings and face why you did it and/or why it was done to you. Was it a bunch of JAMA articles that made you decide to circumcise Jr. or was it your own fear, your own desire to conform, your own scars?
Really? This is like telling your friend Jim Bob who lost both hands in a farm accident that at least he'll never have to deal with hangnails again. Or telling your friend, Hank, who lost both feet in a steamroller accident that at least he doesn't have those pesky corns you do.
Statements like this are not even offered as a "reason" to circumcise/cut/mutilate your child. They are instead a pitiful consolation prize for those who have already done so.
E.g.: "Sure I cut Johnny so he'd look like me but hey, I'm also helping lower the cervical cancer rate."
Let's look at it another way: If you could "help prevent" breast cancer by cutting off your child's left ear would you do it? What about helping prevent colon cancer -- big killer by the way-- would you cut off your son's pinkie finger to do that? OF COURSE YOU WOULDN'T! So why should you cut off his foreskin to "help prevent" cervical cancer? See what a bad idea it is? You don't cut off body parts to prevent problems that don't exist. (If we did, doctors would remove the appendix shortly after birth too. After all they don't think it has much of a function and appendicitis can be life threatening.) The truth is people have been circumcising their children for thousands of years for ALL kinds of bizarre reasons. It's only in the last hundred or so years that the American medical profession has decided to try to legitimize it.
If you are circumcised and you somehow find solace in the claim that you are "helping" prevent cervical cancer, more power to you, but please don't tout this as a reason to circumcise. Do you really want to advocate circumcising/mutilating non-consenting children to deal with a public health problem (ie HPV) that is best addressed with condoms and monogamy? Speaking as a partially restored man, it is really quite ludicrous. (For me personally I'd rather have my foreskin and NOT help prevent cervical cancer. After all I'm in a monogamous relationship and thus not at risk of giving HPV to anyone. Sorry, but I've chosen to think highly of my son as well and don't think he will rampantly spread HPV just because he is intact!)
So if you are circumcised and/or have chosen to circumcise your child, STOP throwing out red herrings and face why you did it and/or why it was done to you. Was it a bunch of JAMA articles that made you decide to circumcise Jr. or was it your own fear, your own desire to conform, your own scars?
Thursday, June 9, 2011
"I'm circumcised and I don't have a problem with it. What's the big deal?"
I'm writing this blog because of an extensive facebook debate with three guys who are "friends of a friend" and didn't like their friend posting a blog about how circumcision hurts babies. Each of the guys attempted to make a point about why he felt the way he did but, interestingly enough, all 3 of them mentioned that they themselves were circumcised and did not think it was a big deal. I admitted that my own feelings of anger and loss about my circumcision came AFTER my wife and I decided to leave my son intact which basically forced me to think about what I was missing every time I changed the little lad's diaper! However, I think it's important to connect with guys who are not yet dads who think circumcision is "not a big deal." If you are one of those guys please read on and follow the instructions carefully so you can be absolutely SURE that you don't mind being circumcised. If you are not one of those guys please read on anyway as you can share this exercise with male friends who report to you that they do not mind being circumcised.
1) Take out your penis and look at it. You know that ring around your penis that is a little darker than the rest of the skin on your penis? Do you ever wonder about what that is? Sadly I used to think that was somehow part of the anatomy of a penis, that it was supposed to look that. Um no. That is a scar from where we were circumcised. Just like any part of you body, making a deep cut and removing tissue creates scar tissue. Don't know about you but I'm not a huge fan of having a scarred penis.
2) Now, grasp the loose skin just below your scar with your thumb and forefinger on either side of your shaft and gently pull the skin over your glans/head. How easy this is for you to do is closely related to how much skin the doctor or mohel cut off of you as an infant during your circumcision.
3) Still grasping the skin, use one of your middle fingers to gently press down on the glans. Again, depending on how much skin you have you may be able to almost completely cover your glans with skin.
4) Look down at your covered glans. This is how you were born. This is how your body was created by your DNA, or God if you are religious. It's not gross or weird though many people try to described intact penises this way. It's kind of like a sheathe for your mighty sword.
5) If you were intact and had that skin covering your glans, your glans would be MUCH more sensitive. Without that foreskin your glans is left to chafe on your diaper, pants, etc. your entire life until the poor thing has about as much sensation as your elbow. Touch your glans, erect or not doesn't matter. Now touch the middle of the arch on your bare foot. Doesn't it seem odd your foot is more sensitive than your sex organ? For intact men this is NOT the case.
6) Do you use lubricant, saliva, etc to masturbate? Most circumcised men do. If you were intact not only would your glans be more sensitive but your penis would secrete natural lubricant to help with sex and masturbation. Also, the extra skin would provide you with additional "rolling" stimulation of your glans. Unfortunately for us who are circumcised our glans only understands THRUST, REMOVE, now repeat. Most intact guys don't use/need lubricant for vaginal sex and masturbation.
If you've done/thought about all this and STILL feel like circumcision was a "good thing" for you, that's great (I guess) but before you go removing part of your son's body without his consent review the above list again and consider whether you are comfortable altering your son's anatomy and future sexual experiences for the sake of cultural tradition, to look like you, or to supposedly prevent diseases he will STILL need a condom to protect himself from.
If you've done these exercises and are now pissed this was done to you without your consent, don't dispair. You can, eventually, restore your foreskin if you want to. Stay tuned for future blogs or check out www.tlctugger.com
1) Take out your penis and look at it. You know that ring around your penis that is a little darker than the rest of the skin on your penis? Do you ever wonder about what that is? Sadly I used to think that was somehow part of the anatomy of a penis, that it was supposed to look that. Um no. That is a scar from where we were circumcised. Just like any part of you body, making a deep cut and removing tissue creates scar tissue. Don't know about you but I'm not a huge fan of having a scarred penis.
2) Now, grasp the loose skin just below your scar with your thumb and forefinger on either side of your shaft and gently pull the skin over your glans/head. How easy this is for you to do is closely related to how much skin the doctor or mohel cut off of you as an infant during your circumcision.
3) Still grasping the skin, use one of your middle fingers to gently press down on the glans. Again, depending on how much skin you have you may be able to almost completely cover your glans with skin.
4) Look down at your covered glans. This is how you were born. This is how your body was created by your DNA, or God if you are religious. It's not gross or weird though many people try to described intact penises this way. It's kind of like a sheathe for your mighty sword.
5) If you were intact and had that skin covering your glans, your glans would be MUCH more sensitive. Without that foreskin your glans is left to chafe on your diaper, pants, etc. your entire life until the poor thing has about as much sensation as your elbow. Touch your glans, erect or not doesn't matter. Now touch the middle of the arch on your bare foot. Doesn't it seem odd your foot is more sensitive than your sex organ? For intact men this is NOT the case.
6) Do you use lubricant, saliva, etc to masturbate? Most circumcised men do. If you were intact not only would your glans be more sensitive but your penis would secrete natural lubricant to help with sex and masturbation. Also, the extra skin would provide you with additional "rolling" stimulation of your glans. Unfortunately for us who are circumcised our glans only understands THRUST, REMOVE, now repeat. Most intact guys don't use/need lubricant for vaginal sex and masturbation.
If you've done/thought about all this and STILL feel like circumcision was a "good thing" for you, that's great (I guess) but before you go removing part of your son's body without his consent review the above list again and consider whether you are comfortable altering your son's anatomy and future sexual experiences for the sake of cultural tradition, to look like you, or to supposedly prevent diseases he will STILL need a condom to protect himself from.
If you've done these exercises and are now pissed this was done to you without your consent, don't dispair. You can, eventually, restore your foreskin if you want to. Stay tuned for future blogs or check out www.tlctugger.com
Saturday, June 4, 2011
Top Ten Reasons not to circumcise
#10: Circumcision removes healthy tissue that is attached to your child's penis for a variety of damn good reasons including creating lubrication during sex, protecting the ever-so-sensitive glans thus keeping it sensitive, and MORE...
#9: Circumcision hurts your child. If you don't believe me watch a video of one. By the way this hurt goes on for a long time after the actual circumcision. I'm still hurting, personally.
#8: Your infant son cannot give his consent for this surgery you are considering performing. Surgery, particularly one that removes healthy body parts, ought to have consent from the person on the table.
#7: Fewer and fewer people are choosing to circumcise their sons in the United States. Yes, we're finally catching up with the rest of the world on that one. So even if you're worried about Jr. "fitting in" in the locker room (which I sure the hell am not) you may want to think twice before you sign off on genital cutting.
#6: If you think Female genital mutilation is wrong you will want to do some brief study of anatomy 101 before removing your son's foreskin which serves many of the same functions as a woman's labia. All forms of circumcision are wrong and hurtful to children and adults.
#5: Circumcision harms your son's sex life. Message me or others who are in process of restoring if you don't believe me. Better yet talk to someone who signed off on a circumcision late in life. There are some dramatic, um, changes to your ability to experience pleasure without your foreskin.
#4: Circumcision is not medically necessary. Shouldn't we keep the body parts we're born with? Whether you believe in God or not you have to admit that the human body is a pretty amazing thing. I'm just not a big fan of cutting off parts of it willy nilly.
#3: Circumcision does not prevent AIDS. This is just a bald-faced lie. Millions of circumcised Americans are living with AIDS right now. I'm related to one of them. Condoms and monogamy prevent AIDS. Circumcision does not.
#2: Does circumcision prevent penile cancer? Hmmm. Do I really care? Penile cancer is extremely rare and besides we don't remove breasts, colons, ovaries, or prostates to prevent cancer even though those cancers are MUCH more common and deadly than penile cancer.
and the #1 reason not to circumcise your child is (drumroll)
Circumcision is morally and ethically wrong. You run the risk of your children not being happy with your decision when he grows up. Are you prepared to explain to him why you felt you had the right to sign off on cutting part of his penis off? No one has the right to alter/mutilate someone else's body without their consent. Circumcision will continue to decline and will someday become illegal. Consider being a force for change instead of a someone fighting it.
#9: Circumcision hurts your child. If you don't believe me watch a video of one. By the way this hurt goes on for a long time after the actual circumcision. I'm still hurting, personally.
#8: Your infant son cannot give his consent for this surgery you are considering performing. Surgery, particularly one that removes healthy body parts, ought to have consent from the person on the table.
#7: Fewer and fewer people are choosing to circumcise their sons in the United States. Yes, we're finally catching up with the rest of the world on that one. So even if you're worried about Jr. "fitting in" in the locker room (which I sure the hell am not) you may want to think twice before you sign off on genital cutting.
#6: If you think Female genital mutilation is wrong you will want to do some brief study of anatomy 101 before removing your son's foreskin which serves many of the same functions as a woman's labia. All forms of circumcision are wrong and hurtful to children and adults.
#5: Circumcision harms your son's sex life. Message me or others who are in process of restoring if you don't believe me. Better yet talk to someone who signed off on a circumcision late in life. There are some dramatic, um, changes to your ability to experience pleasure without your foreskin.
#4: Circumcision is not medically necessary. Shouldn't we keep the body parts we're born with? Whether you believe in God or not you have to admit that the human body is a pretty amazing thing. I'm just not a big fan of cutting off parts of it willy nilly.
#3: Circumcision does not prevent AIDS. This is just a bald-faced lie. Millions of circumcised Americans are living with AIDS right now. I'm related to one of them. Condoms and monogamy prevent AIDS. Circumcision does not.
#2: Does circumcision prevent penile cancer? Hmmm. Do I really care? Penile cancer is extremely rare and besides we don't remove breasts, colons, ovaries, or prostates to prevent cancer even though those cancers are MUCH more common and deadly than penile cancer.
and the #1 reason not to circumcise your child is (drumroll)
Circumcision is morally and ethically wrong. You run the risk of your children not being happy with your decision when he grows up. Are you prepared to explain to him why you felt you had the right to sign off on cutting part of his penis off? No one has the right to alter/mutilate someone else's body without their consent. Circumcision will continue to decline and will someday become illegal. Consider being a force for change instead of a someone fighting it.
Monday, May 23, 2011
Dr. Demented (revisited)
Recently while out bowling with my wonderful children at the every bit as wonderful Dormont Lanes I slipped while trying to perfect my hook-- ok not perfect more like actually complete a hook that knocks down more than two pins-- and managed to crush my pinkie with a bowling ball. It was a wonderful little injury with pieces of fat and other gore oozing out and bright red blood. I had no intentions to visit the ER; it was my son's birthday for goodness sake and in no way did I want the day to revolve around me and one or two stitches. I wrapped my injury with paper towels and watched the kids bowl. Unfortunately later on, back at my home, my son managed to slip and fall while he was bowling with his home bowling set and ended up splitting his chin; not as much blood, but enough of a wound that the wife thought, Daddy's doctor aversion aside, we ought to have him looked at.
Thankfully we were seen by a P.A. instead of an MD. However I was surprised when she told me it was my mother's fault that I had smashed my finger.
"Really?" I asked, shocked.
"Well yes, the AAP is now recommending routine infant pinkie removals to prevent just this type of injury. If your mother had been more forward thinking this would have never happened to you."
"I'm surprised since, you know, it was kind of a bizarre accident. Doesn't seem worth removing a baby's pinkie to prevent something that probably won't happen when he gets older."
"You do have a point. Actually I'm not supposed to tell people this but penile cancer is even more rare than serious bowling accidents statistically speaking and we tell people that one of the reasons circumcision is so great is because it prevents penile cancer."
"Hmmmm," I mused. "Do you ever think people are just trying to come up with bogus reasons for an awful thing that they do to because it fulfills their own psychic needs?"
"No, doctors are too wise for that. They're so wise in fact they don't even bother sewing people up anymore if they can help it. Hold still now..."
(OK I didn't really get to have that conversation with her, but isn't it interesting that the foreskin is the only part of the human body that docs advocate removing to prevent cancer? They don't remove colons or ovaries or breasts at birth even though millions of people die of cancer related to those parts of the body. Seems a little fishy if you ask me.)
She glued my son's cut chin together and then stitched me up while he watched. Then they charged my insurance company an exorbitant amount of money and sent us on our way. It was very straightforward. Nothing "preventative" about this care. We came in bloody, we left less bloody. Hard to give that kind of care a bad evaluation. Now I'm not against a routine visit to your dentist once in a while or your eye doctor-- especially if you wear contacts like I used to and have to worry about getting one of those weird eye diseases if you don't keep them clean, ugh-- however, I think this whole idea of preventative care is a big part of the circumcision problem, outside of the previously explored all important need to preserve ego. Most doctors are pretty good at fixing things if you indeed have a genuine need for care, best evidenced by loss of huge amounts of blood, a cavity that feels like it's boring a drill into your gum, etc. It's when we take healthy adults and children to doctors that they become dangerous.
Think about it this way: You've got a brand new Caddy. 6 miles on it from the lot and that's it. You take it in to your trusted mechanic and say,
"Can you do something to be sure my car continues to run good."
"Well sure I can!!!" he says.
$300 later he assures you he's extended the life of your new car and you have little evidence to disprove his claim. It is, after all, a new car.
Babies don't need doctors to keep them well. If they did the human race would never have evolved past the middle links of the food chain. Heck we probably wouldn't be here at all. But somewhere along the road to current medical practice "First do no harm" got replaced with "There's always something you can do to make this body better." Once the medical profession sold us on the idea of preventative care we as healthcare consumers were basically cooked. We would buy whatever modification they said our car needed and hey if Dr. Demented says we can prevent future rust problems by hacking the entire tailpipe off our new Audi then we should probably do it. He ought to know about these things. He wouldn't let us sign up for anything that did HARM to our car, I mean child, would he?
It's sad because I think there are a lot of well-meaning people in various medical professions who themselves have bought into the all-important nature of preventative care. Case in point:
My oldest daughter brought home a coloring book from a recent trip to the veterinarian's office. One of the pictures had the following caption:
"Veterinarians help keep our pets healthy and happy."
Shouldn't the caption read,
"Veterinarians help sick and injured pets get better?"
Unfortunately veterinary medicine needs preventative care to stay afloat, just like your doctor, and, of course, your mechanic. The coloring book was interesting because it made me think this is probably how some vets conceptualize themselves: keeping healthy pets from keeling over and dying for no reason, making sure everything goes according to plan health-wise. Again, how did dogs survive for 2,000 years without veterinary care? Somehow sometime in the last 50 or so years human and animal medicine decided bodies were inherently flawed just because these bodies tend to eventually expire, that the doctor's job was not to fix what was broken but to set out on a relentless and at times ethically questionable quest to make the body and everything about it Perfect.
My finger is not perfect. It's ten days post injury and my digit is still sporting bright blue stitches and a jagged red mark a little too wide to consider completely healed. It's condition will improve with time and, eventually, the scar will probably fade. However it looks I'll be happy with the outcome since it was without a doubt damaged and in need of medical fixing. Unfortunately, like all circumcised males, I still bear the scar from that injury. It will never heal. I will see it every time I have to pee and almost every time I dawn a device to help with restoration I will experience an emotion at varying places along the continuum between peeved and devastated. Please keep in mind part of the reason my foreskin was removed was because a doctor told my parents there were health benefits. Harm was done to me with the claim it would prevent future harm.
"I know I'm not supposed to but let me do a teensy bit of harm now," Dr. Demented says, "I PROMISE it will mean less harm later."
I for one am not signing my kids up for any kind of harm. Even if JAMA or some other medical journal publishes a double blind study proving that circumcision will make people live 20 years longer and prevent Alzheimer's disease I still would not do it to my child; I would still advocate against circumcision until the day I die. I will never trample any child's rights for some nebulous future benefit no matter how much "cutting-edge" research has supposedly been done. After all do you think it's a coincidence that all those researchers are they themselves circed or else they're women from circed families or even women who have circed their own children and want/need to justify this thing that every fiber of their motherly instincts tells them is WRONG?
Interesting final digression: I once met a girl on the bus who was reading a text from nursing school. I asked to see it and tried to find an entry on circumcision and could not find one. I found this odd and broached the subject with her. She eventually informed me she had "observed" a few being done and went on to make a feeble attempt to tout the health benefits of this procedure. I did my best to make her see how the real crux of the issue was the fact that it was unethical to remove body parts of children without their consent. But she already had her walls up. I could see she didn't want to let the information in. Why? Because she had witnessed circumcisions being done and had not intervened. If this procedure was indeed ethically wrong she would have to bear some ethical responsibility for standing there and doing nothing. She was kind of like the guy who delivered lunches to the guards at Auschwitz. She was kind of like the guy who gassed up the plane that dropped the A bomb on Hiroshima. She played a role, albeit a small one, in the genital mutilation of those children. She stood by and did nothing while that baby screamed. Millions of doctors and nurses have had this same kind of training. I suppose trying to find reasons to justify circumcision is the best way to distract them from the blood on their hands.
PS: final final digression. RD left comment touching on circumcision practices during the Korean war. I worked with an African-American woman whose father served in Africa in World War II. She informed me he was forcibly circumcised by the military upon entering the service, the excuse being that he might contract some kind of dreaded disease. She assured me this was done against his will, basically do it or be court-martialed. I found this quite frightening and couldn't help wondering if this happened to more black soldiers than white ones or if the military was just cutting everyone they could get their hands on back then. If anyone has links or additional info about the military's approach to circumcision past or present please share!
Thankfully we were seen by a P.A. instead of an MD. However I was surprised when she told me it was my mother's fault that I had smashed my finger.
"Really?" I asked, shocked.
"Well yes, the AAP is now recommending routine infant pinkie removals to prevent just this type of injury. If your mother had been more forward thinking this would have never happened to you."
"I'm surprised since, you know, it was kind of a bizarre accident. Doesn't seem worth removing a baby's pinkie to prevent something that probably won't happen when he gets older."
"You do have a point. Actually I'm not supposed to tell people this but penile cancer is even more rare than serious bowling accidents statistically speaking and we tell people that one of the reasons circumcision is so great is because it prevents penile cancer."
"Hmmmm," I mused. "Do you ever think people are just trying to come up with bogus reasons for an awful thing that they do to because it fulfills their own psychic needs?"
"No, doctors are too wise for that. They're so wise in fact they don't even bother sewing people up anymore if they can help it. Hold still now..."
(OK I didn't really get to have that conversation with her, but isn't it interesting that the foreskin is the only part of the human body that docs advocate removing to prevent cancer? They don't remove colons or ovaries or breasts at birth even though millions of people die of cancer related to those parts of the body. Seems a little fishy if you ask me.)
She glued my son's cut chin together and then stitched me up while he watched. Then they charged my insurance company an exorbitant amount of money and sent us on our way. It was very straightforward. Nothing "preventative" about this care. We came in bloody, we left less bloody. Hard to give that kind of care a bad evaluation. Now I'm not against a routine visit to your dentist once in a while or your eye doctor-- especially if you wear contacts like I used to and have to worry about getting one of those weird eye diseases if you don't keep them clean, ugh-- however, I think this whole idea of preventative care is a big part of the circumcision problem, outside of the previously explored all important need to preserve ego. Most doctors are pretty good at fixing things if you indeed have a genuine need for care, best evidenced by loss of huge amounts of blood, a cavity that feels like it's boring a drill into your gum, etc. It's when we take healthy adults and children to doctors that they become dangerous.
Think about it this way: You've got a brand new Caddy. 6 miles on it from the lot and that's it. You take it in to your trusted mechanic and say,
"Can you do something to be sure my car continues to run good."
"Well sure I can!!!" he says.
$300 later he assures you he's extended the life of your new car and you have little evidence to disprove his claim. It is, after all, a new car.
Babies don't need doctors to keep them well. If they did the human race would never have evolved past the middle links of the food chain. Heck we probably wouldn't be here at all. But somewhere along the road to current medical practice "First do no harm" got replaced with "There's always something you can do to make this body better." Once the medical profession sold us on the idea of preventative care we as healthcare consumers were basically cooked. We would buy whatever modification they said our car needed and hey if Dr. Demented says we can prevent future rust problems by hacking the entire tailpipe off our new Audi then we should probably do it. He ought to know about these things. He wouldn't let us sign up for anything that did HARM to our car, I mean child, would he?
It's sad because I think there are a lot of well-meaning people in various medical professions who themselves have bought into the all-important nature of preventative care. Case in point:
My oldest daughter brought home a coloring book from a recent trip to the veterinarian's office. One of the pictures had the following caption:
"Veterinarians help keep our pets healthy and happy."
Shouldn't the caption read,
"Veterinarians help sick and injured pets get better?"
Unfortunately veterinary medicine needs preventative care to stay afloat, just like your doctor, and, of course, your mechanic. The coloring book was interesting because it made me think this is probably how some vets conceptualize themselves: keeping healthy pets from keeling over and dying for no reason, making sure everything goes according to plan health-wise. Again, how did dogs survive for 2,000 years without veterinary care? Somehow sometime in the last 50 or so years human and animal medicine decided bodies were inherently flawed just because these bodies tend to eventually expire, that the doctor's job was not to fix what was broken but to set out on a relentless and at times ethically questionable quest to make the body and everything about it Perfect.
My finger is not perfect. It's ten days post injury and my digit is still sporting bright blue stitches and a jagged red mark a little too wide to consider completely healed. It's condition will improve with time and, eventually, the scar will probably fade. However it looks I'll be happy with the outcome since it was without a doubt damaged and in need of medical fixing. Unfortunately, like all circumcised males, I still bear the scar from that injury. It will never heal. I will see it every time I have to pee and almost every time I dawn a device to help with restoration I will experience an emotion at varying places along the continuum between peeved and devastated. Please keep in mind part of the reason my foreskin was removed was because a doctor told my parents there were health benefits. Harm was done to me with the claim it would prevent future harm.
"I know I'm not supposed to but let me do a teensy bit of harm now," Dr. Demented says, "I PROMISE it will mean less harm later."
I for one am not signing my kids up for any kind of harm. Even if JAMA or some other medical journal publishes a double blind study proving that circumcision will make people live 20 years longer and prevent Alzheimer's disease I still would not do it to my child; I would still advocate against circumcision until the day I die. I will never trample any child's rights for some nebulous future benefit no matter how much "cutting-edge" research has supposedly been done. After all do you think it's a coincidence that all those researchers are they themselves circed or else they're women from circed families or even women who have circed their own children and want/need to justify this thing that every fiber of their motherly instincts tells them is WRONG?
Interesting final digression: I once met a girl on the bus who was reading a text from nursing school. I asked to see it and tried to find an entry on circumcision and could not find one. I found this odd and broached the subject with her. She eventually informed me she had "observed" a few being done and went on to make a feeble attempt to tout the health benefits of this procedure. I did my best to make her see how the real crux of the issue was the fact that it was unethical to remove body parts of children without their consent. But she already had her walls up. I could see she didn't want to let the information in. Why? Because she had witnessed circumcisions being done and had not intervened. If this procedure was indeed ethically wrong she would have to bear some ethical responsibility for standing there and doing nothing. She was kind of like the guy who delivered lunches to the guards at Auschwitz. She was kind of like the guy who gassed up the plane that dropped the A bomb on Hiroshima. She played a role, albeit a small one, in the genital mutilation of those children. She stood by and did nothing while that baby screamed. Millions of doctors and nurses have had this same kind of training. I suppose trying to find reasons to justify circumcision is the best way to distract them from the blood on their hands.
PS: final final digression. RD left comment touching on circumcision practices during the Korean war. I worked with an African-American woman whose father served in Africa in World War II. She informed me he was forcibly circumcised by the military upon entering the service, the excuse being that he might contract some kind of dreaded disease. She assured me this was done against his will, basically do it or be court-martialed. I found this quite frightening and couldn't help wondering if this happened to more black soldiers than white ones or if the military was just cutting everyone they could get their hands on back then. If anyone has links or additional info about the military's approach to circumcision past or present please share!
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Dr. Demented
Anybody who knows me knows I don’t trust doctors. Sure, if I ever manage to acquire a gunshot wound or if I’m ever in a horrific car accident and need my arm to be reattached I will happily entrust my future wellbeing to an MD. I think very highly of emergency room doctors. Most of the time I imagine their job as being fairly straightforward: person comes in broken, they need to fix the person enough so they don’t die and then refer on to a specialist from there. However, that’s about the only doctors I trust. I haven’t gotten a physical in years and have no intentions of doing so unless I actually feel seriously ill for a long time—- wild concept huh? Why not, Jeff? Don’t you want to prevent cancer, don’t you want to live to be a 103? Well, here’s the problem, I don’t think US medicine can entirely be trusted. Now here’s one caveat to this entire post: I work in the behavioral health industry. While the job I do is focused mostly on improving the lives of people labeled for whatever reasons as having “mental illness” I do work with psychiatrists and these are, in my opinion, some of the worst doctors there are out there. (chiefly because none of them can actually fix anything. Too squeamish to mend bones or stitch flesh, they join an industry that serves the interests of, primarily, the pharmaceutical industry.) This has a great deal to do with why I don’t trust doctors, I suppose. However, I have a sneaking suspicion it may also have something to do with the fact that almost 34 years ago a doctor rubbed my penis until it became semi-erect, clamped some sort of metal device to it, and sliced off my foreskin with a scalpel.
Let’s really consider this for a moment. Throw out all the arguments that doctors give for why circumcision can be a good thing—- we’ll return to that parade of snake oil salesmen later. Let’s look at it from me, as a little baby, my point of view: “Oh god, that really hurts. I have no idea why this is happening. You are hurting me. Where the hell is my Mom?” I did not give consent for this to happen. No one talked to me about risks vs. benefits of this operation much less the permanence of it. I was not consulted. Hmmmmmm.
I like to carry things through to their logical, or in this case illogical, extension. So I have three kids. Let’s say I decide that my son, little Sullivan’s nose is too big, it’s quickly growing into that enormous Sanger nose I’ve been sporting my entire life. After much involved discussion with my wife we decide it would be better to give Sully a nose job NOW. If we do it now he won’t remember it hurting and then when he grows up he won’t have to face the challenges of having a big nose. Now I realize plastic surgeons care about money perhaps even MORE than the average doctor does but do you think I could find any doctor in the US who would be willing to perform such an operation? Maybe, but it would be difficult. Why? Perhaps they would cite the fact that it’s not a good idea to perform cosmetic surgery on a child, or perhaps they might even point out that I ought to wait until little Sully can give his consent. At what age does a child’s consent start to matter I wonder? At what point do they stop being property and become little citizens. Here’s a strange thought: regardless of how you feel about abortion, isn’t it kind of funny that pro-lifers want the state to protect unborn children but not their foreskins after they’re born?!?!?!?! Yes, I believe in consent, even for people who can’t speak. If they’re not equipped to give it as infants perhaps we should wait until they are able to. Now I’ll admit I may be a bit of a fanatic in this regard: I refuse to even cut my kids' hair unless they want it to be done. To date none of them has had a haircut. But perhaps I’m so conscious of the sacredness of their right to control their own bodies because I never had this control over my own body.
Back to Dr. Demented. Do I think Mom and Dad made a mistake signing off on part of my body being cut off? Yes. However, they’re from that generation that believes doctors can do no wrong, that they can’t be influenced by money or powerful corporations, or politics, or their own cultural biases. I know better. More and more people these days know better. But for Mom and Dad they read the APA statement of the day which said circumcision was not really necessary but did, honest to god we promise, prevent a bunch of horrible, dirty, health problems. Well, Dad’s cut, they thought to themselves, it must have been because of the health benefits. We should do it to Jeff too.
That’s what all of this goes back to: all of us circumcised guys have this moment shortly after we realize we are “cut,”-- and I have heard of people who didn’t even know what the word meant until their 20s-- sometime after this moment we ask ourselves, “Why was my foreskin cut off?” And that question leads to some pretty difficult feelings you've got to start repressing ASAP.
Let’s pretend you woke up this morning to find your right ear was hacked off. All that was left was a bloody hole like that poor cop in “Reservoir Dogs.” You come down to breakfast screaming and your mother informs you she cut it off because your doctor told her it was the most hygienic thing to do, especially considering the fact you’ve got two of the damn things and all they do is fill up with wax anyway. You’ve got two choices at this point:
Choice #1 You believe the doctor. This is oddly comforting because now you can look down on all the people that have two ears: “Yes, they have two ears but they’ve got that extra wax to deal with and besides, I’ll have the last laugh if they develop that rare but horrific ear cancer the doctor told mom about.” This also absolves your mom of responsibility so you don’t have to admit there’s any kind of issues in that relationship. Mom cut off the ear because she was looking out for you. End of story.
Choice #2 Your mother has done something horrible to you which she refuses to acknowledge as horrible. This is obviously the more difficult choice: not only must you admit that the person who is hardwired to protect you from harm has instead volunteered you up for it, you must stand up and assert that Dr. Demented who has lots of important letters after his name and who, after all, was REALLY good at chemistry and biology does not know what the F*&# he is talking about.
Therein lies the explanation for why circumcision is a vicious cycle. Ironically I think the docs themselves go through this same process. A lot of these guys are cut too and they engage in the same thought process that the rest of us do. After deciding on choice one, they go on to be doctors, to help people. "If removing ears helps people then by God we’ve got to do it. These people are just not smart enough to know what’s good for them." Suddenly they’re wielding the scalpel themselves and instead of acknowledging the true, deeply buried subconscious sentiment of satisfaction at having ensured someone else will not have the opportunity to have any additional equipment they themselves were deprived of, they can instead tell themselves they are helping this little baby, sparing him from a life of potentially unhygienic choices. My favorite part is even as they lower the scalpel and blood gives from the crease in the skin and baby screams and writhes against the circumstraint, doc tells himself, “Hey even if I’m wrong, which I never am, and this is all bullshit I’m still ethically clean because it’s mom and dad’s choice and it’s ok to let them pay me to cut off part of their child’s body if it’s important to them. Really!?!?!?!?!? It’s kind of like the guy at Auschwitz saying, “Hey sorry I burned all those kids but talk to Hitler man, I was just following orders.” We all have to face the choices we make. Believe me I’ve made some dumb ones myself. But the thing about doctors is they still maintain this air of authority. Enough so that millions of mothers let their pedes or OBs “convince” them that circumcision is the right thing to do. "Why would Dr. Demented lie? He wants what's best for my baby." Well, here’s the problem, it’s kind of like getting advice on choosing shoes at a double amputee convention. If Dr. Demented is cut, he's probably not hip to the benefits of being intact. He can’t help but tune out information about the benefits of being intact, it is likely psychologically painful to him. He's got to hold his penis in his hands to pee and stare at his poor exposed, toughened, centurion helmet-top the same as I do. He really doesn't want to spend continuing education hours on learning about why it stinks to be circumcised. It’s much more palatable to find reasons why it’s great since he's got to live with it.
That’s my beef with docs in a nutshell. They have perpetuated the cycle of circumcision to protect their own egos. They’ve claimed circumcision cures seizures, masturbation, laziness, bad behavior, etc, the list goes on. HIV is just the latest addition. Once it’s proven circ doesn’t really prevent that either they’ll find something else it prevents. Um thanks, but until you’ve got some hard, ha ha get it?, evidence I think I’ll let my son make his own choices. If he hates wearing a condom he can always sign up for a circumcision later in life I suppose. As for masturbation, well, I haven’t met too many adolescent boys who want to cure themselves of that!
So Dr. Demented, first do no harm. If you’re cut I think you should recuse yourself from supporting circumcision. You have a conflict of interest, unless of course you circed yourself. Regardless of whether mom and dad are behind it you should not be removing body parts without the person’s consent. Face it: your profession did some very sick, very bad stuff back in the day. You said smoking was good for us for God’s sake! Could you please just admit you blew this one and stop making excuses to protect all the penis cutters out there? It’s wrong. Even if you can fabricate oops I mean produce a study that shows circumcision extends lifespan by 50 years it’s still just wrong to alter/mutilate people’s sex organs without their express consent. I’m sorry it was done to you, Dr. Demented, but no matter how many baby penises you mutilate it’s not going to make you feel better about your own. No matter how hard you try to make the whole world look like you, you can’t escape the fact that every new baby boy is born exactly the way he should be and you’ll never, ever, be able to cut them all.
Let’s really consider this for a moment. Throw out all the arguments that doctors give for why circumcision can be a good thing—- we’ll return to that parade of snake oil salesmen later. Let’s look at it from me, as a little baby, my point of view: “Oh god, that really hurts. I have no idea why this is happening. You are hurting me. Where the hell is my Mom?” I did not give consent for this to happen. No one talked to me about risks vs. benefits of this operation much less the permanence of it. I was not consulted. Hmmmmmm.
I like to carry things through to their logical, or in this case illogical, extension. So I have three kids. Let’s say I decide that my son, little Sullivan’s nose is too big, it’s quickly growing into that enormous Sanger nose I’ve been sporting my entire life. After much involved discussion with my wife we decide it would be better to give Sully a nose job NOW. If we do it now he won’t remember it hurting and then when he grows up he won’t have to face the challenges of having a big nose. Now I realize plastic surgeons care about money perhaps even MORE than the average doctor does but do you think I could find any doctor in the US who would be willing to perform such an operation? Maybe, but it would be difficult. Why? Perhaps they would cite the fact that it’s not a good idea to perform cosmetic surgery on a child, or perhaps they might even point out that I ought to wait until little Sully can give his consent. At what age does a child’s consent start to matter I wonder? At what point do they stop being property and become little citizens. Here’s a strange thought: regardless of how you feel about abortion, isn’t it kind of funny that pro-lifers want the state to protect unborn children but not their foreskins after they’re born?!?!?!?! Yes, I believe in consent, even for people who can’t speak. If they’re not equipped to give it as infants perhaps we should wait until they are able to. Now I’ll admit I may be a bit of a fanatic in this regard: I refuse to even cut my kids' hair unless they want it to be done. To date none of them has had a haircut. But perhaps I’m so conscious of the sacredness of their right to control their own bodies because I never had this control over my own body.
Back to Dr. Demented. Do I think Mom and Dad made a mistake signing off on part of my body being cut off? Yes. However, they’re from that generation that believes doctors can do no wrong, that they can’t be influenced by money or powerful corporations, or politics, or their own cultural biases. I know better. More and more people these days know better. But for Mom and Dad they read the APA statement of the day which said circumcision was not really necessary but did, honest to god we promise, prevent a bunch of horrible, dirty, health problems. Well, Dad’s cut, they thought to themselves, it must have been because of the health benefits. We should do it to Jeff too.
That’s what all of this goes back to: all of us circumcised guys have this moment shortly after we realize we are “cut,”-- and I have heard of people who didn’t even know what the word meant until their 20s-- sometime after this moment we ask ourselves, “Why was my foreskin cut off?” And that question leads to some pretty difficult feelings you've got to start repressing ASAP.
Let’s pretend you woke up this morning to find your right ear was hacked off. All that was left was a bloody hole like that poor cop in “Reservoir Dogs.” You come down to breakfast screaming and your mother informs you she cut it off because your doctor told her it was the most hygienic thing to do, especially considering the fact you’ve got two of the damn things and all they do is fill up with wax anyway. You’ve got two choices at this point:
Choice #1 You believe the doctor. This is oddly comforting because now you can look down on all the people that have two ears: “Yes, they have two ears but they’ve got that extra wax to deal with and besides, I’ll have the last laugh if they develop that rare but horrific ear cancer the doctor told mom about.” This also absolves your mom of responsibility so you don’t have to admit there’s any kind of issues in that relationship. Mom cut off the ear because she was looking out for you. End of story.
Choice #2 Your mother has done something horrible to you which she refuses to acknowledge as horrible. This is obviously the more difficult choice: not only must you admit that the person who is hardwired to protect you from harm has instead volunteered you up for it, you must stand up and assert that Dr. Demented who has lots of important letters after his name and who, after all, was REALLY good at chemistry and biology does not know what the F*&# he is talking about.
Therein lies the explanation for why circumcision is a vicious cycle. Ironically I think the docs themselves go through this same process. A lot of these guys are cut too and they engage in the same thought process that the rest of us do. After deciding on choice one, they go on to be doctors, to help people. "If removing ears helps people then by God we’ve got to do it. These people are just not smart enough to know what’s good for them." Suddenly they’re wielding the scalpel themselves and instead of acknowledging the true, deeply buried subconscious sentiment of satisfaction at having ensured someone else will not have the opportunity to have any additional equipment they themselves were deprived of, they can instead tell themselves they are helping this little baby, sparing him from a life of potentially unhygienic choices. My favorite part is even as they lower the scalpel and blood gives from the crease in the skin and baby screams and writhes against the circumstraint, doc tells himself, “Hey even if I’m wrong, which I never am, and this is all bullshit I’m still ethically clean because it’s mom and dad’s choice and it’s ok to let them pay me to cut off part of their child’s body if it’s important to them. Really!?!?!?!?!? It’s kind of like the guy at Auschwitz saying, “Hey sorry I burned all those kids but talk to Hitler man, I was just following orders.” We all have to face the choices we make. Believe me I’ve made some dumb ones myself. But the thing about doctors is they still maintain this air of authority. Enough so that millions of mothers let their pedes or OBs “convince” them that circumcision is the right thing to do. "Why would Dr. Demented lie? He wants what's best for my baby." Well, here’s the problem, it’s kind of like getting advice on choosing shoes at a double amputee convention. If Dr. Demented is cut, he's probably not hip to the benefits of being intact. He can’t help but tune out information about the benefits of being intact, it is likely psychologically painful to him. He's got to hold his penis in his hands to pee and stare at his poor exposed, toughened, centurion helmet-top the same as I do. He really doesn't want to spend continuing education hours on learning about why it stinks to be circumcised. It’s much more palatable to find reasons why it’s great since he's got to live with it.
That’s my beef with docs in a nutshell. They have perpetuated the cycle of circumcision to protect their own egos. They’ve claimed circumcision cures seizures, masturbation, laziness, bad behavior, etc, the list goes on. HIV is just the latest addition. Once it’s proven circ doesn’t really prevent that either they’ll find something else it prevents. Um thanks, but until you’ve got some hard, ha ha get it?, evidence I think I’ll let my son make his own choices. If he hates wearing a condom he can always sign up for a circumcision later in life I suppose. As for masturbation, well, I haven’t met too many adolescent boys who want to cure themselves of that!
So Dr. Demented, first do no harm. If you’re cut I think you should recuse yourself from supporting circumcision. You have a conflict of interest, unless of course you circed yourself. Regardless of whether mom and dad are behind it you should not be removing body parts without the person’s consent. Face it: your profession did some very sick, very bad stuff back in the day. You said smoking was good for us for God’s sake! Could you please just admit you blew this one and stop making excuses to protect all the penis cutters out there? It’s wrong. Even if you can fabricate oops I mean produce a study that shows circumcision extends lifespan by 50 years it’s still just wrong to alter/mutilate people’s sex organs without their express consent. I’m sorry it was done to you, Dr. Demented, but no matter how many baby penises you mutilate it’s not going to make you feel better about your own. No matter how hard you try to make the whole world look like you, you can’t escape the fact that every new baby boy is born exactly the way he should be and you’ll never, ever, be able to cut them all.
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